Must reads to recognize & heal complex ptsd
Why it’s important to let go of needing to know why
Needing to know why keeps you stuck. You believe answering the question of why family members treated you the way they did will give you closure.
How to deal with guilt feelings and where they come from
Bréne Brown says guilt tells you when you’ve done something wrong. However, for those raised with abuse and neglect, guilt can be a conditioned response.
How to understand your fear of getting in trouble
Fear of getting in trouble is a symptom of childhood trauma. Whenever the phone rings or someone wants to talk, you assume it’s because you’ve done something wrong.
How to understand your need for certainty
Everyone has a need for certainty. For the childhood trauma survivor it feels like life or death because it developed as a response to feeling abandoned.
How to stop feeling alone and lonely
One outcome of growing up in a home with abuse or neglect is feeling alone in the world. If nobody had your back, you became self-sufficient to protect yourself.
Let’s talk about love
When the people who were supposed to love you didn’t, you feel like love is scarce, hard to get, and confusing.
But love is the most natural thing in the world.
Why the scapegoat leaves and how to survive the fallout
When the scapegoat leaves, it is after a long period of gaslighting and bullying that has created a sense of self-loathing and made staying intolerable.
How to overcome social anxiety from childhood trauma
If you grew up with abuse or neglect, you are a prime candidate for social anxiety. If your parents rejected you, it is hard to believe others will accept you.
Why it’s so hard to be nice to yourself
You’ve heard the importance of being nice to yourself. But a voice in your head won’t let you give yourself the care and compassion you need to thrive.
How to know when chemistry is a trauma bond
Did a parent make you feel as though you had to strive to win their love? This primes you to feel attraction or trauma bond to people who treat you the same.
Cycle breaker: what it means and how to become one
You may have seen the term cycle breaker on Instagram and other media. It refers to someone challenging past generational patterns so they can live differently.
How accepting their limitations will set you free
Have you ever been told to “let go” of resentment over how a family member treated you? Rather than letting go I suggest accepting their limitations instead.
The problem with "they did the best they could"
I’ve noticed a pattern among childhood trauma survivors. And that’s how quickly they rush to defend the parents who failed to give them what they needed.
What is parentification and how to know if it applies
Parentification takes place when the needs of the parent come before those of the child. It results in a role reversal where the child takes on responsibilities that should belong to the parent.
How to understand the freeze response and its purpose
Have you been in situations where looking back you should have felt intense fear but instead felt nothing? Did you minimize or deny rather than assess the circumstance accurately?
7 tactics common to narcissistic abuse. Depending on the nature of the relationship and the level of narcissism, you may experience some or all of these.