Must reads to recognize & heal complex ptsd
Why it's important to develop emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence helps you in all areas of life: relationships, workplace, goal setting, and how you feel about yourself in general. And success in these areas will obviously improve your quality of life.
Why you need to get out of your comfort zone now
The comfort zone is a phrase first coined in the 90s by author Judith Bardwick. She described it as a risk-averse place of routine, and the enemy of progress. In other words, growth never happens inside the comfort zone.
Self care is never selfish: how to know if it's self care or self-sabotage
Contrary to popular belief, self care is never selfish. The true problem arises when we practice acts of self-sabotage and call them self care.
How to know the difference between love addiction and a crush
Have you heard of love addiction? It’s different from sex addiction and affects women more than men. The most common reason for this behavior is childhood emotional neglect and abuse.
Why willpower is a myth and never works for long
Some say those who fall prey to addictions lack willpower. But at the height of my alcohol dependence I trained for and completed a marathon. I monitored my caloric intake and never gained an ounce of fat.
Why you need personal standards and how to set them
Personal standards are like boundaries that keep you safe. They let the good people in and keep the bad people out. Or at least the people who may not be best for you.
Why you can never relax and enjoy your free time
Do you feel as though you can never relax, even on vacation? Is every spare moment filled with activities and obligations, most of which you don’t enjoy?
Signs you underestimate yourself and how to see clearly
When you underestimate yourself, it can lead to a lack of fulfillment in life. You fall short of your purpose and potential because you hold yourself back.
Signs of toxic people and how to deal with them
Nobody’s perfect, but toxic people can really hold you back and make you question yourself. They come in many forms, but here are four major red flags.
How to recover from being the family scapegoat
If you played the role of family scapegoat, others targeted you for shame, blame, and abuse to avoid looking at themselves and their own problems.
How to self-soothe in healthy ways vs. unhealthy coping
Many of us, when we try to self-soothe, have trouble understanding what we really need. We may have been primed since childhood to suppress or ignore our needs. So, when time comes to take care of ourselves, we’re at a loss to know what to do.
How to reparent yourself by grieving a lost childhood
If our parents were unreliable, abusive, neglectful, or worse, we fail to learn some basic life skills. We need to reparent ourselves to learn things like setting boundaries, healthy habits, emotional regulation, and relationship building.
Expectation and reality: what happens when they're out of alignment
The last time I felt unhappy I took a moment to consider why. What happened to create this feeling of disappointment? I realized my expectation and reality had become misaligned.
How to know if you're having a midlife crisis, women
We used to think of men when we talked about a midlife crisis. Now we know women also suffer through them, but the signs look different.
How to know if you were raised by a narcissist
Narcissists lack the most important components of parenting: empathy and compassion. If you were raised by a narcissist (or two) you’ll suffer the consequences of their deficiencies.