Must reads to recognize & heal complex ptsd

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How to empower yourself against fear, obligation, guilt with a narcissist

Narcissists use fear, obligation, and guilt to keep you under their control and get what they want. FOG keeps you confused, anxious, and unsure of yourself.

How to Recognize Manipulation Tactics of the Narcissistic Mother

Are you exhausted by the manipulation tactics of your narcissistic mother? This is the toolbox of tricks she uses to maintain power and control over you.

How to Remember Joy When You Had a Traumatic Childhood

Advice to remember childhood to connect with joy or creativity is common in the self-help space. It ignores the fact that many of us come from traumatic childhoods.

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childhood trauma/ Relationships/ dysfunctional family

7/27/21 7/27/21

How to get treated with more respect in relationships

If you ask most people, they would call “love” the most important element of a relationship. But respect in relationships is equally important if you want to feel valued and cherished.

7/23/21 7/23/21

How to buy time instead of things so you can be more happy

A study published a few years ago showed that people who spent money to delegate tasks they disliked were happier than those who didn’t. In other words, when you buy time instead of things you feel better.

7/16/21 7/16/21

The most important relationship you'll ever have

The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. – Diane Von Furstenberg

7/13/21 7/13/21

How to choose yourself and why it's important

What does it mean to choose yourself and why is it so important? For many of us, the concept sounds selfish. But, the best way to serve the world is to put yourself first.

7/9/21 7/9/21

Why it's important to express yourself and speak your truth

Have you ever held back thoughts and opinions to avoid conflict? Neglected to express yourself fully for fear of the consequences?

7/6/21 7/6/21

How to challenge your inner critic with self-compassion

We’d never speak to someone else the way our inner critic does when we make a mistake or fall short of reaching a goal.

6/29/21 6/29/21

What it means to have confidence and how to achieve it

What is confidence and why do some people have it and others don’t? In a nutshell, it’s a sense of feeling good about yourself and displaying that to the world.

6/25/21 6/25/21

How to stop being invisible and stand out more

As the result of growing up in an emotional desert, I learned to stay small, even invisible. I turned down countless opportunities to stand out starting in elementary school.

6/23/21 6/23/21

How to set relationship boundaries and deal breakers

Relationship boundaries are parameters you set that tell other people where they end and you begin. They tell the world what you will and won’t tolerate. And help you understand your wants and needs to get them met.

6/21/21 6/21/21

How to improve your self-worth and overcome unmet childhood needs

Years ago, I had a session with a therapist who helped me work through some of my self-worth issues that resulted from childhood abuse and neglect.

6/14/21 6/14/21

How to get what you want out of life

Traditional advice on how to get what you want out of life says, “work hard”. That may be true for some, but for me less effort has produced more results.

6/11/21 6/11/21

How to be more playful in life and relationships

As we grow into adulthood and our responsibilities increase, we forget how to be playful. Many experts tell us to remember what we loved to do as children to retrieve that playfulness.

6/9/21 6/9/21

How to open up and be more vulnerable in relationships

Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt scared to open up and be vulnerable? When you expressed your feelings, the other person shut you down.

6/4/21 6/4/21

Why love doesn't have to be earned

Due to the circumstances of my childhood, I’d adopted the belief that love is something you have to work for. The truth that love doesn’t have to be earned escaped me.

6/2/21 6/2/21

Why we need recognition and how to get it from the right places

As someone growing her readership, I often receive advice to guest post on larger “platforms” to increase my recognition. You can’t keep showing up for just your own readers and expect to get ahead, they say.