Must reads to recognize & heal complex ptsd
How to know your values and why they're so important
If you feel unhappy and you’re not sure why, that might mean it’s time to determine your values. For instance, your life looks really good to other people but you feel empty inside.
How to invest in yourself and what that really means
You’ve probably heard how important it is to invest in yourself. But what does that really mean?
What are healthy boundaries and how to set them
I first learned about healthy boundaries in my recovery program. Having been raised in a home where such things were never discussed, my first foray into boundary setting came well into my 30s.
Why a done list is more important than to-do lists and how to create one
We live in a society that values productivity more than anything else. Maybe you’ve become mired in to-do lists and derive your value from checking off items. But have you tried a done list?
5 signs of self abandonment and how to overcome
Do you struggle with self abandonment? That means you have a habit of doing what other people want and have trouble discerning your own desires.
How monumental experiences change us in ways nothing else can
Have you ever known or heard of people whose lives were transformed by monumental experiences? A brush with death, for instance, sends them running after their dreams full-tilt, unwilling to settle for anything less.
How to release repressed emotions and overcome feeling numb
Have you ever heard the saying, “fake it till you make it?” That means pretending things are already the way you wish they could be. The belief here is that reality will catch up if you keep your mindset right.
Why change is hard and how to embrace change for a better life
Change is hard and, most of the time, getting outside our comfort zones takes courage. It’s easier to stay where we are even when we’re unhappy.
Signs and causes of women who love too much
Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood took the world by storm in 1985. It told countless stories of women who stood by men whose love fell far out of reach.
How to stop feeling ashamed of the choices you've made
There’s a school of thought that loves to berate us for the choices we’ve made. Your life is the sum of your choices, it reminds us, with the wag of a self-righteous finger.
Why forgiveness is hard and how to forgive authentically
If you’ve been wronged, you know how hard forgiveness can be. Even, or especially, when the wrongdoing came from a close friend or family member.
What is imposter syndrome and how to overcome it
Imposter syndrome is the feeling you’re not as competent as other people believe you to be. It makes us believe we’ve achieved great things through luck instead of skill. And that others will discover we’re not as capable as they think we are.
How to stop being over responsible and why you are
If you’re over responsible you have trouble asking for help, give more than you take, and listen more than you share. You say sorry more than most people and tend to look out for the needs of others more than your own.
How to overcome social isolation created by adverse childhood events
In my previous post, I wrote about the link between social isolation and childhood trauma. Now, we’ll look at how to overcome this common consequence of unresolved adverse childhood events.
How childhood trauma causes isolation and how to overcome
We’re living in a time when isolation has become more common. Even before the health scare, people reported higher levels of loneliness and less in-person interaction.